In The Porn Solution, Dr. Sandra Shachar illuminates the path forward for couples affected by Betrayal Trauma following the discovery of a partner’s hidden pornography use. With compassion and without judgment, Dr. Shachar addresses both partners using neuroscience research to explain why the discovery of a partner’s sexual secret is traumatic, and the effect of habitual pornography use on the brain and sexual functioning. 

Most importantly, The Porn Solution gives couples the essential communication tools and rules to help repair and rebuild their relationship to be better than ever!

Praise for The Porn Solution:

“In The Porn Solution: Relationship Repair After Pornography Betrayal, Dr. Sandra Shachar gives us a much-needed resource for couples healing from betrayal. Both professional and relatable, this book will help a lot of couples navigating the difficult healing journey after betrayal. I have already started using concepts from this book with couples in my practice, and I look forward to implementing these principles with my clients in the future!” —Dan Drake, LMFT, LPCC, CCPS-S, CSAT-S, Founder of Banyan Therapy Group in Los Angeles, and co-author of Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal and Letters from a Sex Addict: My Life Exposed.

“Trust and safety are two pillars of a healthy relationship. Hidden pornography use is a violation of that trust—at its core, it’s a betrayal of the relationship. The Porn Solution is a compassionate and guiding light out of the despair of betrayal. With expert direction, Dr. Shachar lays out step-by-step actions for communication and repair. The Porn Solution is a much-needed staple for all couples who wish to heal from pornography betrayal.” —Debra Kaplan, MA, MBA, LPC, CSAT-S, author of Coupleship Inc: From Financial Conflict to Financial Intimacy

“In The Porn Solution, Dr. Shachar brings brilliance to illuminate a dark time for couples. This clear and intelligent presentation makes literally changing your mind for the better about your partner and your relationship realistic. When you and your partner put this book down, I’m confident you will have a sense of hope, based not on emotion alone, but based on science, too.” —Greg Pacini, MS, LPC, CGP, author of Journey Beyond Hardship: A Practical, Hopeful Guide for Getting Through Tough Times

“In The Porn Solution, Dr. Sandra Shachar presents a concrete, expert, and insightful view of hidden pornography use as a form of interpersonal betrayal. Filled with compassion and hope, this work provides a clear definition of the effects of betrayal trauma. Along the way, it provides productive insights and actions that couples can employ toward overcoming relational damage.” —Robert Weiss, PhD, LCSW, educator, clinician and author of Always Turned On: Sex Addiction in the Digital Age